Well, Valentine's Day is upon us again. If you want to know the origin's of this day, you can look it up on Google. The Western Church celebrates it in commemoration of St. Valentinus. Be that as it may, it has become across the world a day when lovers celebrate their love for each other and surprise each other with gifts and a nice romantic meal. Unlike Christmas or Easter (which are deeply pagan in their origin), I don't think it is wrong for lovers who are believers in Messiah to express their love for each other on this day. I wanted to share with you some wonderful advice I came across on how to keep the romance alive in a relationship.
- Give your partner what he/she wants before they ask for it. Be a Knight, be a Lady, be nice!
- Balance your relationship! Libra, the sign of relationships is symbolised by the scales. Give as much as you receive, talk as much as you listen, pleasure as much as you enjoy.
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- Give your partner space. While Location, Location, Location is the real estate agents' mantra, Space, Space, Space should be yours.
- Communicate about everything immediately. Don't wait! The longer you hold something in, the more damage it causes.
- Communicate, but not when you are emotionally charged. Most ancient Greek tragedies (emphasis on the tragedy) were woven around the clash between the opposing forces of reason and passion. Both energy fields are needed in a relationship. However, keep the reason for conversations and the passion for the bedroom. Don't mix!
- NEVER take your partner for granted! That is the apocalypse of all relationships. Always spend a few moments thanking the Universe, God, your mother-in-law and your good fortune for sending you your loved one.
- Relationships evolve - don't try to avoid change, it's inevitable. According to Taoism, we start our relationship with the Yang, the masculine principle, but if we want the relationship to continue to evolve we most move to the Yin, the feminine principle. Yang is the part when we fall in love, have sex three times a day, and act all cute and childlike. It's super fun, but it can burn us if we don't cool it and move to the Yin principle. Yin symbolises the feminine energies of family, security and commitment.
- Try to make friends with your partner's friends and have your partner connect to your friends. The Sufis say "show me your friends and I will tell you who you are". Most important, make sure to establish common friends as a couple.
- Do not punish! Forgive them, even if your partner is infuriating and did not wash the dishes, pair up the socks, or check the pockets before washing your lipstick. When you punish the one closest to you, you punish yourself. It's self-destructive.
- Always keep an element of surprise. Spontaneity, adventures, breaking the routine and doing things together that you have never done before (camping, travelling to an exotic country, mountain climbing) will generate stories that belong only to the two of you. It's like creating your own mythology. According to Kabbalah, God created the Universe with a story. You can recreate your relationship with these stories.
Happy Valentine's Day!
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